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Lessons from the Adoptive Journey
Adoption is a multi-faceted journey. Whether you have adopted or have been adopted, there are lessons to learn. Come learn with us…
The Role of Discipline in Training Adopted Children
Discipline is often confused with punishment, especially when it comes to adopted children. But it doesn’t need to be. Punishment is focused on the misbehavior and its outcomes, and is designed to teach our child that there are natural consequences to his actions....
Dealing with Uncertainty in Your Adopted Child’s Heart, Part 2
In the previous blog, I mentioned six causes of uncertainty in the mind of an adopted child (abuse by birth parents, uncertainty due to attachment disorder, uncertainty due to physical abnormalities, uncertainty due to being in a new culture, uncertainty due to lack...
Dealing with Uncertainty in Your Adopted Child’s Heart, Part 1
Uncertainty is a fact of life. Children who are adopted deal with uncertainly because of the disruptive family life that caused them to lose their birth parents. This uncertainty is in addition to the usual questions that children ask because of their age. In order to...
A Father to the Fatherless, Part 2
God’s concern for the fatherless extends far deeper than we imagine. When we look at pictures of children who wait to be adopted, we fall in love with an image of what we think they will be like as part of our family. Once we have adopted them, we realize that they...
A Father to the Fatherless, Part 1
God’s concern for the fatherless extends further than we imagine. When we look at pictures of children who wait to be adopted, we fall in love with an image of what we think they will be like as part of our family. After we have adopted them, we discover that they...
God Will Not Leave Us as Orphans
I recently stumbled across a verse that I had read a number of times before, but it never made an impression on me. In John 14:18, Jesus says, “I will not leave you as orphans; I will come to you.” Here in the upper room, Jesus is reminding the apostles that, while...
Doubt in Adoption
Connected with the idea of giving up is the doubt that comes into our minds after we have adopted. Doubt can grip us if we are not careful. Why do we have doubts? First, doubt comes into our minds and then our hearts because our motivation to adopt was to love a child...
Giving Up
A number of times in my life I gave up. I am not proud of any of them, but have to admit it happened. The most painful time was when I saw my military career end before I was ready. But, it had become unsalvagable because God had closed the door for me to continue in...