Many of us think of adoption as a one-sided transaction. The parents choose to adopt their children in order to make them part of their family. This is the case with infants and small children. On the other hand, there are many adoptions (especially of children who...
Shortly after we adopted our sons, we discovered they were avid tree climbers. We could hardly let them outdoors without finding them up in the trees. It was their way of getting a perspective that they would not get any other way. Thankfully, they never fell or...
One of the challenges in adoption is knowing how to respond to our children when they act out. This is more of a challenge as they grow older and have been in our family for a longer period of time. In fact, just when you think you know the rules, the rules seem to...
As parents, we enter adoption with a lot of unknowns. We question whether our new child(ren) will possess giftedness or special ability. We question the reasons for the events that led to their availability for adoption. We wonder about their future and if and whom...
How do our adopted children view marriage and family? This is not a simple question to answer, because many of them start out with a dysfunctional view of the family and of their birth parents. They may have had a positive experience with one member of their family,...
Recently, I was discussing a medical history of a potential adoptee with his future parents. We talked about a specific issue regarding his health and prognosis. Medical diagnoses and care vary greatly from place to place. The accuracy of the diagnosis can even vary...
Discipline is often confused with punishment, especially when it comes to adopted children. But it doesn’t need to be. Punishment is focused on the misbehavior and its outcomes, and is designed to teach our child that there are natural consequences to his actions....
In the previous blog, I mentioned six causes of uncertainty in the mind of an adopted child (abuse by birth parents, uncertainty due to attachment disorder, uncertainty due to physical abnormalities, uncertainty due to being in a new culture, uncertainty due to lack...
Marcellus George and his loving wife are the adoptive parents of (now adult) twin sons. He is the author of numerous articles and devotions, has a Ph.D. in theology... Read More