Doubt in Adoption
Connected with the idea of giving up is the doubt that comes into our minds after we have adopted. Doubt can grip us if we are not careful. Why do we have doubts? First, doubt comes into our minds and then our hearts because our motivation to adopt was to love a child...Giving Up
A number of times in my life I gave up. I am not proud of any of them, but have to admit it happened. The most painful time was when I saw my military career end before I was ready. But, it had become unsalvagable because God had closed the door for me to continue in...The Approach to Helping the Attachment Disordered Child
Our adopted children continue to challenge us in the area of wanting to know that they are loved. The wise parent will seek to meet that need as much and as often as possible. A key role in this approach is the recognition that I know I am loved because I love others....
The Struggle of Adoption
With all the time and energy that goes into finalizing adoption, parents might be tempted to think that the hard part is over. What we may fail to realize is that the struggle for our children is just beginning. Attitudes surface like unwanted weeds in our garden! Why...
Adoption and Intentionality, Part 3
Previously I looked at intentionality with regard to God. Another area to practice intentionality as adoptive parents is discussing adoption with our children. We can do this (1) as they ask about adoption, (2) by talking about their experience prior to adoption, and...Intentionality and Adoption, Part 2
One of the most important areas of intentionality is cultivating a spiritual mindset in our children. We had great ideas of how we would do this when we first started our adoption, but we realized that developing a spiritual pattern of thinking is more of a long-term...Intentionality and Adoption
We are right to ask if adoption takes intentionality. Intentionality, according to the Oxford Dictionary, means “the fact of being deliberate or purposive.” It further goes on to define it as “the quality of mental states (e.g. thoughts, beliefs, desires, hopes) which...
A Father’s Role in Adoption
Adoption as a father is one of the greatest privileges one can ever experience. It is frequently downplayed, because, in our culture of “anything goes” with regard to a family, it is viewed as acceptable for any two adults or single person to adopt children. In...
Adoption Successes and Failures
It was a cold January day with temperatures hovering in the teens. School had been cancelled for the day (to our sons’ delight), so they were free to spend it however they wanted. Having a frozen pond behind our backyard only added to the prospects of a fun afternoon....Marcellus George
Marcellus George and his loving wife are the adoptive parents of (now adult) twin sons. He is the author of numerous articles and devotions, has a Ph.D. in theology... Read More